Are you Trapped in an Unhealthy Relationship?
Everyone looks for and needs a varying array of personality traits from their Mr. or Mrs. Right. Unfortunately some people are always looking for their Mr. or Mrs. Right, but he or she might not exist or worse still, the perceived Mr. or Mrs. Right does not provide the level of fulfillment desired or expected.
Relationships can be complex emotional journeys of personal development, that make you question yourself as an individual, as a man or woman, as a lover and a partner. Do any of the following apply to your relationship:
- Do you pick the same “type” all the time?
- Do you get jealous easily?
- Do you attract jealous partners?
- Do you have a hard time being faithful to one person?
- Do you constantly feel inadequate all the time in your relationship?
- Do you feel you are in a “one-way” relationship?
- Do you or your partner have difficulty saying, “I love you”?
- Do you or your partner have issues with “pda” (public displays of affection)?
- Can you talk to your partner or does s/he tune you out all the time?
Questions like these play on the individuals mind, having a huge impact on their self -image, self- belief, sense of direction and purpose. These thoughts lead to unhealthy relationships that have a negative impact on both parties, depressing the individual’s ability to see things from other perspectives. An unhealthy relationship can trap individuals in a vicious cycle of self-neglect and self-doubt. Preventing each individual from being who they want to be in the relationship may affect all areas of that person’s life.
An Alternative Approach
Neuro-Linguistic Programming is a form of applied psychology described as the study of subjective experience. NLP focuses on how we interpret information through our five senses and create our reality which we then use to navigate are way through our lives. Through understanding how we perceive what has happened in our relationships and how the other person has perceived what has happened, we can start moving towards a resolution that benefits both parties. We are all unique individuals, finely tuned to our own skill set that has been developed through our upbringing. By learning about ourselves and what we look for and thrive from we can be more open minded and flexible with the choices we make in our relationships.
NLP provides a series of insights which enables the individual to understand him or herself as well as the impact that he or she may have on another person. This provides clarity and the ability to take charge of the results that the individual is having rather than being at the cause of another person’s behavior.
Donna Blinston is a certified trainer of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and the founder of Inspirational Solutions in your hands consultancy, trained by the only recognized trainers of NLP accredited by Kingston University. Inspirational Solutions started out as a one on one life coaching consultancy service, as the business has progressed additional partners with Business, HR and ICT backgrounds have been enlisted to develop Inspirational Solutions into the bespoke training and consultancy organisation it is today.
Donna Blinston is a Registered Nurse, with a specialty in Gastroenterology, the Liver and in Blood-borne viruses. As a Certified Trainer of NLP she uses the tools and techniques of NLP to build a professional relationship with and enhance the lives of her patients to promote good health and wellbeing. Donna also has incorporated her training to help people in the areas of leadership, self-help, practice development and life coaching.
Tune in to this segment of The NLP View Radio Show, as host, Donna Blinston R.N./R.G.N, author of Psychobabble, A Straight Forward Plain English Guide to the Benefits of NLP and special guest co-host, June Stoyer to discuss how NLP can be used to enhance personal relationships on February 15, 2013 at 2pm EDT/7 pm GMT! Stay Tuned!