How You Can Use NLP To Achieve Emotional Success

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What is Success?

“If you believe success is simply making (or having) a lot of money, you may be setting yourself up for failure” (Geoffrey James). Success is a very personal thing and it is unique for each person. Whether the person is planning a goal, reaching the goal or has achieved his/her goals, in the end it’s all about feeling good. It is this “feeling” of success that can only be quantified by the person who has achieved it, not by another person’s perception of what success means to them.

Many people chase money because of the culture we live in today. Money is perceived to have a direct link to happiness, meaning that if you are rich then you are successful. On that very same note; there’s no point to being rich if you’re not enjoying yourself.  More importantly, you’re more likely to get rich if you’re happy doing whatever you’re doing. How can you be successful if you’re not happy? You can buy anything with money, but it is only a temporary fix. A new car or new Jimmy Shoes, for instance, might tickle your fancy for a day or two–but pride of ownership is temporary. Real success comes from the quality of your relationships and the emotions that you experience each day.

The How-To of Success with NLP

Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) consists of very effective techniques that give you an attitude of curiosity, of wanting to learn new things, and explore possibilities. In order for anything from NLP to be successfully applied, there are six basic principles that need to be respected.

1. Outcome Orientated-Knowing & having a well-defined outcome that is continuously in your mind will keep you focused on the goal making it more achievable. If you don’t know where you are going then how will you know when you get there?
2. Sensory Acuity- See and sense what is going on in your life as you proceed to your goal. What changes are you noticing in yourself and others? By reviewing and taking continual feedback you can effectively evaluate if you are on track and whether your outcome actually aligns with your values and beliefs.
3. Behavioural Flexibility- Having noticed the results of your actions tells you whether what you are doing is working or not. Being flexible in your behaviour, means giving yourself more choices and using as many ways as you need to achieve your outcome. Have behavioural flexibility. Be hungry and determined to do whatever it takes to achieve success, if something is not working evaluate why not and if appropriate do it differently.
4. Take Action- Do it! Without actions there are no results: however well-formed your outcome may be you need to take action to achieve it.
5. Rapport-To build and maintain rapport, creating a climate of trust and co-operation to develop and teach understanding.
6. Psychology and Physiology of Excellence-Operate from a Psychology of Excellence, this is when you are in a totally resourceful state, where you are at Cause, taking 100% responsibility for your communication and results, incorporating the presuppositions of NLP.

The Difference NLP Can Make

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is the study of human excellence, focusing on the difference that makes the difference, in a successful outcome. It focuses on the discovery and coding of those models or patterns of human behavior, which distinguish excellent performers (or role models) from average performance in any human endeavor.

NLP is an integration of several disciplines including neurology, psychology, linguistics, cybernetics and systems theory. Providing individuals with a set of insights and skills with which they can actively use their minds, emotions and body to run their own life more successfully. NLP is an ever-growing collection of information and insights, backed up by a huge range of mental NLP Techniques that can enable you to improve how you think, behave and feel – and assist others to do the same.

Be Wonderful! How to Be Emotionally Successful with Applied NLP is an invitation to accept challenges and to use them for self-improvement. Many people have the belief that they are at the mercy of external influences. That something or someone was creating their feelings and controlling their lives. Anyone who is no longer satisfied with his or her current reality or life, that is prepared for easy and direct solutions which work fast, will excel from reading Be Wonderful.

Those solutions are explained in the individual stories of this book. Which expresse Tom Oberbichler‘s view of the world and his personal experience and development in it. Be Wonderful is a result of Tom‘s manifold encounters with life and learning, full of NLP techniques, tricks, and methods that Tom personally used to achieve his emotional success.

Tom Oberbichler is an avid author, a writer’s coach, NLP trainer and self-hypnosis expert.  Tom’s main principle is: “You go first!” In his writing he shares his views of the world, his experiences, tips and tricks for living and writing the wonderful way.

The Interview

Tune in to this segment of The NLP View Radio Show, as host, Donna Blinston is joined by author,Tom Oberbichler to discuss how he uses NLP to achieve Emotional Success!