Are you Trapped in an Unhealthy Relationship?
Everyone looks for and needs a varying array of personality traits from their Mr. or Mrs. Right. Unfortunately some people are always looking for their Mr. or Mrs. Right, but he or she might not exist or worse still, the perceived Mr. or Mrs. Right does not provide the level of fulfillment desired or expected.
How happy are you in your relationship?
Relationships can be complex emotional journeys of personal development, that make you question yourself as an individual, as a man or woman, as a lover and a partner. Do any of the following apply to your relationship:
- Do you pick the same “type” all the time?
- Do you get jealous easily?
- Do you attract jealous partners?
- Do you have a hard time being faithful to one person?
- Do you constantly feel inadequate all the time in your relationship?
- Do you feel you are in a “one-way” relationship?
- Do you or your partner have difficulty saying, “I love you”?
- Do you or your partner have issues with “pda” (public displays of affection)?
- Can you talk to your partner or does s/he tune you out all the time?
Questions like these play on the individuals mind, having a huge impact on their self -image, self- belief, sense of direction and purpose. These thoughts lead to unhealthy relationships that have a negative impact on both parties, depressing the individual’s ability to see things from other perspectives. An unhealthy relationship can trap individuals in a vicious cycle of self-neglect and self-doubt. Preventing each individual from being who they want to be in the relationship may affect all areas of that person’s life.
An Alternative Approach
Neuro-Linguistic Programming is a form of applied psychology described as the study of subjective experience. NLP focuses on how we interpret information through our five senses and create our reality which we then use to navigate are way through our lives. Through understanding how we perceive what has happened in our relationships and how the other person has perceived what has happened, we can start moving towards a resolution that benefits both parties. We are all unique individuals, finely tuned to our own skill set that has been developed through our upbringing. By learning about ourselves and what we look for and thrive from we can be more open minded and flexible with the choices we make in our relationships.
NLP provides a series of insights which enables the individual to understand him or herself as well as the impact that he or she may have on another person. This provides clarity and the ability to take charge of the results that the individual is having rather than being at the cause of another person’s behavior.
What can you do to have a happy and healthy relationship?
Donna Blinston is a certified trainer of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and the founder of Inspirational Solutions in your hands consultancy, trained by the only recognized trainers of NLP accredited by Kingston University. Inspirational Solutions started out as a one on one life coaching consultancy service, as the business has progressed additional partners with Business, HR and ICT backgrounds have been enlisted to develop Inspirational Solutions into the bespoke training and consultancy organisation it is today.
Donna Blinston is a Registered Nurse, with a specialty in Gastroenterology, the Liver and in Blood-borne viruses. As a Certified Trainer of NLP she uses the tools and techniques of NLP to build a professional relationship with and enhance the lives of her patients to promote good health and wellbeing. Donna also has incorporated her training to help people in the areas of leadership, self-help, practice development and life coaching.
Donna Blinston
The Interview
Tune in to this segment of The NLP View Radio Show, as host, Donna Blinston R.N./R.G.N, author of Psychobabble, A Straight Forward Plain English Guide to the Benefits of NLP and special guest co-host, June Stoyer to discuss how NLP can be used to enhance personal relationships on February 15, 2013 at 2pm EDT/7 pm GMT! Stay Tuned!
Love Barbecue’s But Won’t Eat Meat? Try Grilling Vegan Style
Sponsored by EdenFoods
Is Grilling Only For Meat Lovers?
When most people think of barbecue’s they think of grilled slabs of marinated meat and chicken. With so many people opting to live a cruelty free and healthier life, grilling plant based foods is a great way to entertain and enjoy many of the delicious foods we love.
Grilling Vegan Style serves up backyard cooking and entertaining like never before. Running the gamut from plant-based appetizers, salads, sides, kabobs, and burgers to main dishes, desserts, and, of course, cocktails, John Schlimm also demonstrates the art of grilling faux meats, with key info on everything you need for proper heat and the best taste. With color photographs throughout, this cookbook ensures that the magic of a summer barbecue or a night around the campfire can ignite your taste buds all year long.
Listen To The Interview
In this segment of The Organic View Radio Show, host, June Stoyer talks to best-selling vegan author, John Schlimm, about his tips and techniques for grilling as featured in his latest book, Grilling Vegan Style! Please listen to the interview below. You can also subscribe to our feed directly by clicking here or on iTunes by clicking here.
Italian Herb Burgers on Focaccia Bread Recipe
Life doesn’t get much sweeter than a grill surrounded by good friends and laughter, and topped with these Italian inspired focaccia burgers. Here, fresh mushrooms, red onion, bell pepper, garlic, basil, oregano, parsley, sundried tomatoes, and other ingredients belt out an opera of flavors we can all sink our teeth into.
Italian Herb Burgers on Focaccia. Photo: Amy Beadle Roth
From the book Grilling Vegan Style, by John Schlimm. Reprinted by arrangement with Da Capo Lifelong, a member of the Perseus Books Group. Copyright © 2012.
YIELD: Varies, but enough for 3 to 4 people
Ingredients:
1 (15-ounce) can kidney beans
1 to 2 cups old-fashioned rolled oats, as needed
1/2 cup all-purpose flour
1/4 cup vegan egg substitute
1/2 cup roughly chopped white mushrooms
1/2 cup roughly chopped red onion
1 carrot, shredded
1/2 cup roughly chopped red bell pepper
4 cloves garlic, peeled and pressed
4 fresh basil leaves, chopped roughly
1 teaspoon dried oregano
2 tablespoons chopped fresh parsley leaves
1/4 cup well-chopped sun-dried tomatoes
2 tablespoons tomato paste
1 tablespoon soy sauce
Vegan focaccia bread, for serving
Note: If you can’t find focaccia, grill up some vegan whole wheat pita bread instead and proceed.
Directions: In a food processor, combine all the ingredients, except the focaccia. Pulse until just coarsely chopped, adding more oatmeal as needed (start with 1 cup), until the mixture holds together when you make a patty.
Chill the mixture for an hour. Shape into patties about 1/2 inch thick and about 4 inches in diameter. Chill the patties on a plastic wrap–covered platter for at least 3 hours.
Heat a broiler and a grill to medium-high. Broil the patties about 5 inches from the heat source for 4 to 6 minutes, or until lightly browned (watch them closely, as times may vary), checking to make sure the ingredients are holding together well. Broiling first will help to prevent them from falling apart on the grill. Using a grilling screen if desired, transfer the patties to the heated grill and grill for 2 to 3 minutes, turning once.
Serve at once, with the focaccia bread.
Seitan Flares Recipe
If you like hot wings, I mean really, really like HOT wings, try this grilled version made with seitan! Boasting the same texture and knock you on your @ss flavors as regular hot wings, especially when you pile on the cayenne, you won’t miss a beat.
Seitan Flares Recipe. Photo: Amy Beadle Roth
From the book Grilling Vegan Style, by John Schlimm. Reprinted by arrangement with Da Capo Lifelong, a member of the Perseus Books Group. Copyright © 2012.
Ingredients:
1 pound seitan, torn or cut into chunks large enough to fit loosely on the grill grate, or skewered
Extra-virgin olive oil
HOT SAUCE (OR USE DROP IT LIKE IT’S HOT SAUCE ON PAGE 118)
1/4 cup of your favorite hot sauce,
Frank’s Red Hot Cayenne PepperSauce preferred
3 tablespoons pure maple syrup
1/4 cup freshly squeezed lime juice
1/2 teaspoon salt
Ground cayenne pepper (the more,the hotter!)
2 tablespoons chopped fresh oregano (optional)
YIELD: 4 servings
Directions: Heat the grill to medium-high.
Prepare the seitan: Marinate the seitan in the olive oil to cover for 1 hour. Grill the seitan until lightly browned, 3 to 5 minutes or longer, turning often. Transfer to a bowl.
Meanwhile, make the sauce, if using: In a glass measure, whisk together the hot sauce, maple syrup, lime juice, salt, and cayenne pepper to taste. Microwave the mixture for 1 minute or until fairly hot, or whisk the mixture together in a small saucepan and place it over direct heat on the grill until it is hot, 4 to 5 minutes, or longer depending on the grill. Add the mixture to the seitan bowl and stir gently to combine, or coat the seitan if it is skewered. Finish with the optional oregano. Or, marinate the seitan in the Drop It like It’s Hot Sauce for several hours to overnight. Arrange the seitan on skewers, if desired, and place it on the grill for 6 to 8 minutes, turning often, or until browned. Continue to brush on the hot sauce. Serve with extra sauce and celery sticks.